A Generation Xer's caregiving journey

When a caregiver’s health becomes part of the equation

When caregiving for elderly or for children, the last thing we think about is our own health, until something brings it to the forefront.

Then the question then becomes “Who will take care of me?” in addition to “who will take care of my loved one, while I deal with my health?”

Over the past few months, that has been the question that has been plaguing me. I am still trying to put the pieces together regarding my own health. For example, I did take some time last month (I can’t believe its September) and attended Blogher Healthminder.

Sure everyone has stepped up and offered help, but its still hard to hand over the reigns. It will soon get to the point where it won’t be an option, so I need to make peace with that.

2 Responses to When a caregiver’s health becomes part of the equation

  1. I too am faced with the same dilemma!! I have been caring for my Mother since May 2005. In May 2005 she was brought to me–no discussion, etc. I had just moved to a new city in February 2005, knowing no one!!!

    This change found me immobile in the since that I had to take her EVERYWHERE I went.

    In 2010, I was diagnosed with arthritis in my right hip. It has gotten worst. I now walk with a limp and sometimes dragging my right leg. I want to get surgery done but have no place to put my Mom. She has been incontinent for 2 years now. I don’t have to tell you what that entails.

    Of course there are places available if you can afford it!!! I can’t. But until August 13, 2012 I thought I couldn’t.

    Knowing the hardships and emotional upsets involved when having to caregive all alone, I would like to share my discovery with other caregivers. But I realize my email address will not be made public.

    This is my first time on this blog. Perhaps there is another way to communicate one on one.

  2. Everybody needs some time to take care of themselves… That’s why I try to make it a habit to allow myself alone time–that is, away from work, away from family, away from caregiving. But of course, this must sound selfish. Sometimes we’re just short handed, but I really feel it is healthy to give my mother some alone time as well. Yea, sure I worry, but with her PERS (personal emergency response system), I know that she’ll get help even if I’m not there. I still try to be around of course, but I need my space. Hopefully someone who sees this finds my method useful 🙂